Those that read my work regularly may know that I was a public school teacher in Southern California for thirty years.
During that time, some of the toughest parents I met were Christian fundamentalist evangelicals and none was SAP parents (Self-esteem arm of Political Correctness).
One Caucasian student was home taught by his parents because they feared exposure to children raised by SAP parents and taught by teachers pressured to dumb down the work while inflating grades by the same SAPs.
However, when he was old enough to go to high school, he managed to convince his parents to allow him to be among teens his own age. It was obvious from the start that this tall, pale skinned Caucasian teen had been raised by Tough Love parents (probably not as demanding as Amy Chua) to be a disciplined, polite young man that earned excellent grades in high school.
When his parents enrolled him in the high school where I taught, they requested the counselor put him in the toughest teachers’ classes.
As a ninth grade student, he ended in my English class where I recruited him into my journalism class.
Most high school journalism students are disciplined and work hard.
Then, in his senior year, he became editor-in-chief of the high school student newspaper, and I was the faculty advisor. He never missed a deadline. He even managed to intern at a local newspaper his last semester in high school.
Last time we shared e-mails a few years ago, he was the news anchor for a network TV station in Palm Desert, California. He’d even spent a tour in the US Navy.
The fact is that there are great Tough Love parents in America but the average US parent according to many studies is a SAP that allows the child to spend an average of 10 hours a day watching TV, on the Internet probably on Facebook, playing video games or sending out hundreds of text messages while eating unhealthy food.
The SAP crowd is noisy and nosey. For example, I just searched Amazon for books with topics on Self Esteem and discovered 3,358 books with those words in the title or description.
When I searched Tough Love, the results came back with eighteen titles.
I also discovered that there’s a Website that talks about Self Esteem Magazines for Children. I didn’t find any magazines about Tough Love, but Chinese parents don’t need magazines to know how to be a better parent than a SAP.
Return to It Started on a Sunday Hike -Part 2
Lloyd Lofthouse is the award-winning author of the concubine saga, My Splendid Concubine & Our Hart. When you love a Chinese woman, you marry her family and culture too.
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